You Would Never Say This To Your Best Friend
(but you probably say it to yourself everyday)
“If I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?” –Unknown
For some reason my jeans always get a rip on the left side inner seam.
I wish I could explain to you why this happens, but it’s a mystery.
Before my health coaching days, I dreaded jean-shopping day.
I don't know about you, but for me change rooms are not my favorite spot.
They seem to be a breeding ground for negative thoughts about my body.
The major overarching thought that kept popping up was “you look awful”.
This was the dialogue going through my head:
- You need to lose at least 10 pounds
- Your cellulite is disgusting
- Your boobs look weird (I’m trying on jeans, why did my boobs even come into the equation!?)
- I’m going to eat salad everyday for lunch this week
- Ewwww muffin-top
I caught myself in this negative cycle and thought to myself:
Whoa! You would never speak this way to your best friend. You would never shame her body for clothes not fitting properly. You’d simply encourage her to try a different pair until she finds something she feels fabulous in.
So why is it so hard to have this loving attitude towards yourself?
Well, we could probably go on and blame "society" and "the media"... but
Whatever the reason, I'd rather just jump into what you can do to counteract these negative thoughts when they pop into your head.
It's time to stop the negative self-talk.
Here’s my strategy:
1. Recognize how you feel
It’s important to acknowledge your feelings, whether positive or negative. When you’re feeling down, don’t suppress it, acknowledge it and allow yourself to feel.
A great tool to handle this is tapping.
2. Find a feeling of gratitude about yourself
Close your eyes, take a deep breath and bring up a feeling of love for yourself.
Ways you can do this:
- Send love & light to your body
Ex- Picture a light (any color you want) coming from your heart, to the part of your body that you are hating on. In my example above, I visualized a golden light, filling my legs with love.
- Bring gratitude to your body
Ex- I am grateful to my legs for being able to walk wherever I want, dance my heart out and carrying me around all day.
3. The "best friend" test
When you catch yourself thinking mean things about yourself, pause, breathe and reflect, "would I ever say this to my best friend"? Then choose an option from step 2.
It's time to start loving yourself just as you are. Be your own BFF.
Now to raise your vibration and bring some joy and love into your body, press play below and dance to this little diddy. Make it a great day.