As you start reading about the love languages, you will probably start thinking, "woah, that's so me".
Whether you're in a relationship or single, it's oh-so-insightful to know your primary love language.
When you know your love language, you have a better understanding of how you give and recieve love, whether that's with your spouse, parents, siblings, friends or coworkers (not that you love your coworkers, but you do spend an awful lot of time with them...).
Watch the video below to learn more about the 5 Love Languages:
Are you beginning to see how knowing your love language can benefit you?
In summary here are the 5 Love Languages (according to 5lovelanguages.com):
Words of Affirmation
This language uses words to affirm people.
Ex: You best friend says to you, "Girl, you are giving off some amazing energy. More badass than a Taylor Swift video".
Acts of Service
Actions speak louder than words.
Ex: Your husband decides to vacuum/clean the bathroom sink/any kind of household chore without you having to ask (or hint at it!).
What makes some people most loved is receiving gifts.
Now before you get all judgy and think this is a "shallow" love language, that's not the case. Receiving gifts isn't necessarily about being materialistic. It's about appreciating the thought behind the gift.
Ex: Your neighbour's 5 year old kid picks a bunch of flowers from the garden and knocks on your door to give them to you. Heart melted.
This is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
Ex: Pretty straight forward- straight chillin' with the person in question.
Nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.
Ex: A friend of yours is grieving after her adorable tabby cat unexpectedly passes away. You go over to her place to comfort her, and the best way for her to feel your support is by gently touching her arm to show you care.
How my life changed since knowing my Love Language
I've been with my husband for 10 years, and it was only last year that we both took the Love Language quiz. And my god(dess), was it ever eye opening.
My #1 love language (by a lot): Words of Affirmation
His #1 love language: Quality Time
Things that don't come naturally to him: Speaking words of affirmation
Why this important: He can put effort into it. He knows what it takes for me to feel loved.
My own realization: I very freely and openly give words of affirmation. It's a little wasted on him, because words of affirmation mean nothing to him... So it's just been an interesting shift to see how much I praise him, when really all he wants to do is hang out (quality time).
Eye opening on so many levels!
Now it's your turn...
What's Your Love Language?
As I wrap up this post, you're probably dying to know- what's your love language?
Here's the link to take the free quiz (under the pictures of the Love Languages it says 'Discover Your Love Language', click 'click here to begin', then follow the prompts).
Have fun! Talk about it with your friends, family, etc... It's amazing how insightful this tool is.
Then join me for a dance break to the song below (it's the song I'm dancing to at the end of the video above). It's a doozy.